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I am Someone That Doesn't Drink Alcohol; You Got a Problem With That?


When I was a kid, I was the jumper in your closet that you never wore. I wasn’t good enough; I looked different, I was different. I could feel it in my marrow; the dogs would bark at me; people would throw sticks and stones at me. 

My Dad saved me.

My Dad.

Of all people.

My Dad.

“The next time someone calls you a Chink, I want you to punch them as hard as you can.”

So I did.

His name was Daniel, and my blow knocked him on his arse. I was on him like a whiskey on ice. He cried, told me to leave him alone. I got to my feet and reached out a hand. He grabbed it, blood pouring from his bugle like nose. 




Punched me.

I burst into tears and ran all the way home past the barking dogs, only this time they were laughing at me.

That was the last time I cried due to physical pain.

I was ten. 

No punch ever hurt after that, and there have been a lot.

I would never teach my children to punch first and ask questions later, but my Dad taught me a lesson that runs much deeper than flattening pimpled skin with my fist.

You have to stand up straight with your shoulders back.

I just did it.

Right now.

As I typed.

I sat up straight with my shoulders back.

The feeling was palpable. 

I felt bigger, stronger, and more energised. 

When I stood up to my bullies instead of shirking away from them my bullies shirked from me. 

When we become people that don’t drink alcohol the bullies come out in force. It’s the only way they know to keep the cognitive dissonance at bay. 

When you tell people that you’re someone that doesn’t drink alcohol, and they ridicule you, in the slightest way, aggressive, passive-aggressive, I don’t care - they are bullying you. 

Stand up straight with your shoulders back. 

The best way to stiffen your back is to evoke a sense of pride. Be proud of who you are and the monumental change you have made. Let that pride ooze out of you. Spread that energy.

Stand up straight with your shoulders back. 

If you do this.

If you act like this.

If you become this.

Then the bullies will move onto someone else. 

That’s how you deal with coming out, and that’s what we talk about on today’s podcast

The Truth About Alcohol
We Are Not Alcoholics, And we Refuse to be Anonymous

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DISCLAIMER: PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY: This is not medical advice, and if you believe you require such advice, please seek immediate help from a medical professional. I am not a doctor or a medical practitioner. If you want to quit drinking and are worried about doing so, then in all cases you should first contact your doctor and seek advice and assistance. These are the tools that worked for me, and I share them with you as a learning tool. If you have sought or seek medical advice and or attention and any of these tools are in conflict with that advice or assistance, please do not use these tools. I take no responsibility for the continued use of these tools in contravention of any medical advice or assistance you have sought.